I have the honor of hosting my mentor and friend Lori Wildenberg. Ladies, she’s the real deal–a parent of four who knows what it means to raise kids God’s way. Scroll to the bottom for details on how to enter to win over $400.00worth of prizes including Lori’s must have parenting book!
The gun was aimed at my 21 year-old’s head.
She was on the ground curled up in the fetal position. The gunman was deciding, do I shoot again or just kick her out of the way?
Kendra and a few college buddies were back-packing through Peru in December. It was the last day, last few hours of their trip when two masked gunman accosted the group.
It appeared to the robber that my daughter wasn’t being cooperative. He needed to make a quick and clean escape and she wasn’t handing over her purse quickly enough. He fired and flung her, breaking the bag’s cord.
The bullet missed her head.
Now she was in a heap, right his get-away route. She lay like a rag doll in front of the car. He had a choice.
Her friend had a choice too. She could run and save herself. Or she could stay with Kendra and help her get out of harm’s way.
Was Danae scared?
Was she brave?
She stayed with Kendra, beckoned her to get up. Danae knelt down beside my daughter and pulled her to her feet.
Being brave isn’t the absence of fear. It’s facing fear and acting.
Thank God He protected Kendra from the bullet. Thank God Danae acted bravely.
Heather says in her October blog post Brave Mom’s Raise Wildly Brave Kids, “So let us go about the business of raising brave kids through moments where they will have the choice to choose courage.” She adds,” Let us open the boundaries wide so they can choose risk, fail, try again and succeed so they can choose perseverance.”
Heather is wise. I work with lots of parents and over the last fifteen years there has been a trend to over-protect, over-parent.
Our kids need boundaries in order for them to feel secure. But…if protection rules are highly restrictive, kids will learn to be fearful, timid, and unsure of themselves.
Our little and big kids need to be able to take some risks.
The character qualities that come out of taking a chance are huge. The qualities of confidence, perseverance, and… courage are grown.
We desire to protect our children from harm. This is good. We need to do this. And…we also need to give them the opportunity to be challenged, to be able to fail.
Have you noticed how kids love to impress mom with their bravery? So let your kiddos take some reasonable risk while avoiding foolishness. You know your child best. Give your child room to stretch his skills so when courage is called for he will be ready to face the fear and act bravely.
If you are interested in reading the entire account of the hold-up in Peru click here: http://www.loriwildenberg.blogspot.com/2015/01/i-thought-she-was-dead.html
In Raising Little Kids with Big Love (toddler- nine) and in Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love (tween- young adult) , my co-author and I have a chapter in each book titled Choose to Protect. We define what godly protection looks like and describe the effects of a Mother-Hover. If you want to find out more about the books head over to Amazon:
During the LOVE Month, February, 1C13P is celebrating! The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series: Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love and their companion study guides, is being formally launched. My co-author, Becky Danielson and I are so excited; so much so that we wanted to spread a little love around. We are giving away over $400.00 of gifts: books, jewelry, and one-on-one parent coaching. To be eligible for the gifts, comment on this blog post or on an article over at www.1Corinthians13Parenting.com during the month of February. Winners will be randomly drawn each Friday and notified via email. Thank you for sharing in this special month long event!
Lori Wildenberg loves to encourage and support parents in their quest to be the mom or dad they want to be. Lori and Becky are licensed parent and family educators, authors of three parenting books, speakers, and founders of 1Corinthians13Parenting.com. A perfect day is Lori’s world is a hike with her husband Tom, their four kids, and Murphy, the family labradoodle. For more information or to connect with Lori go to www.1Corinthians13Parenting.com www.loriwildenberg.com or visit the 1C13P Facebook page www.facebook.com/1Corinthians13Parenting