Dear Kids, Embrace No Just as Much as Yes

That’s right kids. The yeses will build your dreams, your confidence, your income, and your career. The noes will build your character. The noes will teach you to look for an open window when there is no open door. The noes will teach you how valuable your voice really is.

The noes will show who believe in you and your abilities.

The noes will test your resolve.

The noes will test your patience.

The noes will push you to dig deep.

The noes will teach you fear is a reaction.

The noes will teach you courage is a decision.

The noes will make you feel insignificant and unworthy, but my darlings, you are.

The noes will teach you wisdom and build your faith.

The noes will teach you the goodness of life lies in risk taking.

In the Middle of Your Un-fine Moments: What I Want My Kids to Know

But that’s the point isn’t it? Friendships are built on gritty, messy, imperfect everyday moments. Friendship like doesn’t happen overnight. And it reminds me what I tell my kids often, “The day you plant a seed is not the day you eat its fruit.” Friendship and community are like that. It’s built on a series of 1,000 little everyday moments, taking the time to invest in someone else. It’s built on answering the phone at 2 a.m. when you’re already exhausted from a teething toddler or a teen who missed curfew. It’s built on showing up for 40th birthday parties, and Juice Plus events.