When they need gui-dance

 A special post as I reflect on mother’s day as an author, encouraging others in motherhood. Happy Mother’s Day! And if you haven’t gotten a copy of Mama Needs a Time Out, it’s on sale for $2.99 on E-ChristianKindle & Nook.

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I’m don’t think much for mother’s day. There’s still dishes in the sink, piles of laundry to be tackled, fights to break up, and the strain of teaching “say Okay and obey,” to strong-willed, blue-eyed babes. And we still have to tell ourselves often to take a time-out and breathe. 

The labor of motherhood continues to dance through each day. And you know what–that is motherhood.A dance. One in which we are the lead partner forever spinning our children through life. Guiding them building character, teaching them to step back into submission, twirling them into the joy of God’s little things: ice cream after church on Sundays, kisses at sunset tucked in bed, picking dandelions, the freedom of walking home from school. 

Motherhood isn’t a sweet dance either. Let’s not forget the tantrums, sassing and correcting poor choices. This is when we wonder if we can sit this number out or plow through it. This is when our guidance tempers their memories, adds to their character and creates a bond like none other.Guidance under grace.

As mother’s day approaches, I sigh, pushing back my bangs and think, how undeserving am I? Recent mess ups trickle in, tripping my steps. Am I a good mom? Will my kids be okay despite the fact I howl when a shoe is untied or have to because I didn’t come to the rescue over a lost toy? Let’s not mention the “Hurry ups” or other impatient remarks. 

As my heart begins to sink under the unmet expectations of motherhood and my lack of  leadership as a mom, Jesus steps in taking the lead through the dance of grace, reminding me each day is a new day. Each moment is a chance to reflect him, and when I don’t, he loves me anyway. 

Instead of sitting out on parts of motherhood, let’s embrace it. Let’s reflect our dance partner as he leads us and let’s  lavish love on our wide-eyed babes and our half-grown children. Let’s labor through the messes, reflecting our imperfections and flaws, allowing our children to see who we really are. Maybe we can show ourselves to others who wonder if they too–aren’t the only ones with two left feet. 

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Waiting on the world to change

Okay, so I TOTALLY have John Mayer’s words stuck in my head but I have a good reason! Really :-)

It’s not because he has a sexy voice or reminds me of the ways my husband loves me. His song “waiting on the world to change” struck. And…. IT. STRUCK. DEEP.

It was a combination of things. Seeing hungry faces of starving children that our church plans to make meals for. Listening to a child cry because of a mother’s harsh words in the store. Knowing a friend’s marriage is in trouble and her husband doesn’t care about her. Encountering women whom I shared my deepest prayers as they ignore me in the hallways. Listening to other rants about loud Christian people like me and that I should keep it to myself. All I saw were mountains and heartache. 

Where was God in all of this? How am I supposed to reflect him when this is what I see. At some point, I became a by stander instead of illuminating the world with God’s love. I thought maybe John Mayer has a point. Maybe we do need to wait on the world to change, how can one person really make a difference?

I. WAS. WRONG.

“God, everyone is either dogging me or telling me I won’t make a differnce or to mind my own business. How can I make a difference, it’s SO overwhelming.  I feel so beat down no matter what I say or do. Even when I try my hardest to reflect you, I manage to fumble.”

God’s response…. ( Of course, he likes to wait until the middle of the night when I feel especially burdened and humbled.

Are you pleasing men or me?

Hello??? YOU!

Are your ways higher than my ways?

What does it have it do with hurting children, tired moms, cold faces and hungry stomaches? 

What does your worries have to do with them? Is it not the YOUR understanding about the heart I created in you?

This week after being totally misunderstood after giving my life story (Arrested–grab a tissue before reading) and feeling the heaviness of so much heartache, I muddled through another day’s mess.  As I pushed through the day of chores, being a “Yes” mom and a “No” mom, one silly song hit my heart like bullet looking for its target.

It startled me because it wasn’t a “Mommy loves you” song or a “Jesus, hallelujah ” song.

John Mayer….the younger or more modern-day version of Hugh Heffner had a point I could not ignore,

Waitin’ the World the Change.

Work with me here girls…..check out the videohttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oBIxScJ5rlY

As the tune filled my kitchen, my heart began to soar. God’s voice was in tune with John’s. 

I am the way, the truth and the life. Reflect me as you wait for me to change your heart. Reflect me in your passing prayers. Shine through me with your smile and helping hands. You don’t need to wait for the world to change. 

You and I are the change! You and I have a choice…..let Jesus reflect in us or the worlds. 

I have the power to smile at that overwhelmed snappy mom. 

I have the power to sack meals for the hungry.

I have the power to forgive and smile at those whom are no longer friends

I have the power to prayer for that marriage. 

We don’t need to wait for the world to change. 

 

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